The wedding countdown 1 - It's finally happening!

Oh well! It's happening, isn't it? Those are my exact thoughts. Are you excited? My friends ask over WhatsApp. Well, they may never find out because most of them cannot make it to the event in question. My wedding. That's what they're talking about.

The fact of the matter is that I feel nothing. Sure the organizational part gives me a rush. But that's about it. Don't get me wrong. I am head over heels in love with the man I am going to get married to. But there is something about the whole thing that is yet to hit me. Where are the pre-wedding jitters? Doesn't every bride-to-be feel them?

Well before the date was set, I was on the internet. Searching and searching. Making calls to banquet halls and hotels. Finding out what a wedding would cost. Figuring out whether we could afford it or not. I went through Facebook pages and Instagram handles of at least 50 wedding photographers. All those couples in the pictures. They looked pretty. Very pretty indeed. I wanted something like that.

I signed up with some wedding websites. Well, the world had surely moved on. One of the most interesting things I found on the internet was the wishlists that couples could send out to their friends and relatives. One such website weddingwishlist.com helped me with a webpage that told the couple's story and gave the guests the directions to the venue, a list of the events and even gave the guests the option to buy gifts online, handpicked by the bride and groom!

I was getting married in a time and age when getting married couldn't possibly easier. Or that is what I thought. This was the end of 2018. A great year to be alive in for whatever reason.

Then despite all the technology that swam before my eyes promising me a cakewalk for a wedding, I was inundated with what I "should" be doing as a bride. Everyone had something to say. Of course they do. Don't they all? They all mean well of course; and while their traditions and customs seemed fancy, they also seemed redundant.

I was the first person in my immediate family to be getting married outside of a church. My family was happy with wherever I decided to have the wedding. However, it was my friends who were greatly disappointed to be deprived of attending a wedding at a church. Where is the wedding? Everyone asked. Not in church. You're not having a Christian wedding!

 Well, I was having a Christian wedding. Just not in the church. Was I letting their disappointment cloud my excitement? Was this why there was no tingling sensation in my stomach and I wasn't giddy with happiness?  

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